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Hooking up with the wrong guy?

"Ouch… the mother hooked up with the wrong guy, eh?" was my first thought when I saw a news article about...
... an 8-y.o. girl gone missing,,,
... suspected to have been kidnapped by the mom's boyfriend...
... who turned out to be a sex offender...


(was having trouble calling up the article as I blog this.. maybe by the time you read this cnn.com will have fixed the problem? Click HERE for the article, July 24th 2005.) (It occurs to me that it may never become available: I wonder if it included the kid's name... cos in the next article below, they mention something about them "not normally identify(ing) victims of sexual assault" in news articles.)

Some good news: they have been found... in Mexico! The guy's still in custody of Mexican police, while the kid's been reunited with her family. (Article HERE)

Wonder how the dynamics of that household is gonna be like...

Mother:
1. jealous of kid because boyfriend chose kid over mom
2. horrified that she could feel jealous of kid / blame kid for what happened
3. devastated because it was her boyfriend who kidnapped kid & probably sexually assaulted her

Kid:
1. dunno who to trust ever again... after all, it was mom's boyfriend!
2. blames mom for what happened
3. blames self for what happened

I'm sure there's more... that's just all that pops into my head immediately...

ugh... what a mess...

on a related note: this is only useful in the U.S., but still, it's a start... Firstly, did you know that every state in the U.S. is required to develop some procedure for notifying concerned people when a person convicted of certain crimes is released near their homes. Different states have different procedures for making the required disclosures. "Every parent should have the right to know if a dangerous sexual predator moves into their neighborhood".

Among many tools available: www.mapsexoffenders.com

Malaysia has a long way to go to get anywhere close to this kind of disclosure... or enforcement, for that matter!

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  1. Woo hoo - my info made it to another blog LOL!! That's just sad about that kid that ws taken by her mother's boyfriend. Reminds me of that CSI episode where the Mom killed her daughter because she thought the daughter was trying to snag her bf. Sick.

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  2. LMAO, i think i actually saw that one (i try not to watch too often cos it's just too easy to get hooked!!) the mom killed the kid with the bf's shovel, right?

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